Archive: January 27, 2022

Five ways to celebrate important days after a loved one has passed away

When someone we love dies, no holiday, birthday or other significant event is ever the same. Every celebration can trigger memories that may make us miss that special person, and feel sad about their absence around a table that was meant to be full.

Even though it may be easier to avoid thinking about a deceased loved one, this is not conducive to dealing with our grief properly. Of course, nothing can change the fact that a loved one has died, but it’s also useful to remember that once, they lived, and were an integral part of our daily lives.

Here are five ways to remember a family member or loved one on important days:

Display photos of your loved one

As much as you might long for them to be there in person, displaying photos makes it feel as though a deceased family member, spouse or friend is still a part of the celebration. When other friends or family see the photos, you’ll be sure to start sharing memorable stories about the person who has passed away – something that can be very healing to do.

Write down the most cherished memories you have of them

Birthdays can be especially difficult for people who have lost someone close to them. Writing down the most cherished memories you have of them will not only give you a place to vent and to commemorate a loved one, but it also ensures that you don’t forget the special things you shared with them.

Light a candle in their memory

A simple act like lighting a candle at Christmas, on their birthday, on the anniversary of their passing and other significant days, can have a calming effect and serve as a reminder of the person you have lost.

Spend time somewhere you feel close to them

Was your late wife an avid gardener? Did you and your friend regularly go and watch live cricket matches? You may honour their life by spending time in a place that makes you feel close to someone who has passed away, instead of sitting at home and lamenting their death. While grieving is healthy and necessary, it can also soothe us to think of good times past.

Look through their belongings

Some people may opt to keep all their loved one’s belongings just the way they were before that person died. If you have kept a family member’s belongings, special days are a good time to look through those items and think of them. Perhaps, if you’re feeling up to it, you may even decide to donate some clothes and other items to charity in a gesture of letting go. Whatever you choose, touching and looking at things that used to belong to someone you love can help you to remember interesting stories and times you enjoyed with them.

Should you be in need of counselling, as part of our palliative care services, HospiceWits offers grief counselling for bereaved families.

To learn how you can donate goods to HospiceWits charity shops in Kensington, Parkmore and Orange Grove, click here.

Engaged and planning your wedding? Don’t miss the HospiceWits Bridal Boutique Pop-Up Experience!

If you’re getting married in 2022, but still haven’t found the perfect dress or accessories, you’ll be thrilled to hear that the HospiceWits charity shop is hosting a Bridal Boutique Pop-Up Experience from 12 February to 12 March 2022.

Featuring a wide range of pre-loved wedding dresses, skirts, underskirts, jackets, veils and corsets, this event will form a part of HospiceWits’ annual fundraising efforts. The Bridal Boutique Pop-Up Experience will take place at our Orange Grove shop, located at 199 Louis Botha Avenue in Orange Grove.

Aside from the pre-loved wedding attire that will be on sale, shoppers will be able to purchase a variety of accessories, décor and gifts as part of the overall theme of “tying the knot”.

The Bridal Boutique Pop-Up Experience will take place every Friday, Saturday and Sunday from 12 February to 12 March, and we cordially invite all brides-to-be to save these dates in order to purchase something pre-loved at a fraction of the price that one would pay for a brand-new wedding gown. Given the current economic climate where all of us have had to tighten our belts a little more, this is a wonderful opportunity to spend less cash on the wedding dress and accessories, and more money on a romantic honeymoon – our wedding gift to you and your spouse!

Should you wish to donate your pre-loved gown or any wedding accessories to HospiceWits to sell in the Bridal Boutique Pop-Up shop, we would be most appreciative to receive your donation. Please contact our Retail Operations Manager on 011 728 1052.

Whether it’s something old, something (just about) new, something borrowed or something blue you are after, you are bound to find it at the HospiceWits Bridal Boutique Pop-Up shop. We are excited to welcome you, and look forward to making your wedding dreams come true even before you’ve said, “I do”!